I was born in 1960, so I grew up at a time when obeying your parents and teachers was expected, and they were to be respected. My father was a pastor, and one thing he preached about more than once was the ten commandments, one at a time–OK, maybe not #7, the adultery one. I knew what was expected of me even if I didn’t understand why, but little pagan that I was, it seemed I often found myself in trouble at my local Christian school.
As I grew older, I had a lot of “why” questions about various things, including why I should obey what the Bible said. After I became a Christian at age 20, I gradually found myself having more of a desire to live in obedience; however, as I was reading through Proverbs, Chapter 16:2 brought me up short: “All a man’s ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the Lord.” Five chapters later, Chapter 21:2 says, “All a man’s ways seem right to him, but the Lord weighs the heart.” I realized that doing the right thing was not enough; it was important for me to understand my own motives. As a prime example, I have always enjoyed compliments of various kinds; who doesn’t? However, I realized that kind of desire was very strong in me after I read Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages; words of affirmation were #2 in my ranking (and are probably #1 now). Reading further in Proverbs, here’s what Chapter 27:2 says: “Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not your own lips.” OK, so I realized that I should not boast. However, the second part of Chapter 27:21 takes it a step further: “Man is tested by the praise he receives.” Ouch. In John 12:42-43, we read, “Yet at the same time many even among the leaders believed in him [Jesus]. But because of the Pharisees they would not confess their faith for fear they would be put out of the synagogue; for they loved praise from men more than praise from God.” I had to examine myself; did I love praise from men more than praise from God? How was I to live by this in the deepness of my heart, where only the Lord can truly see?
I eventually found my answer in 1 Corinthians 10:31, which tells us, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” When people praise me, I want to give the glory to God, not to myself; after all, He has given me everything I have. There are times when I have thanked the Lord out loud, depending on who has complimented or thanked me; sometimes I just say “Thank you” (to my ESL students throughout the years, for example), but inwardly, I always try to remember to give Him the glory. I have written more about this here, regarding humility: https://keithpetersenblog.com/2020/05/20/what-does-humility-look-like/; and here, regarding my purpose in life: https://keithpetersenblog.com/2022/01/13/what-is-your-purpose-in-life/.
Another verse I came across that further motivated me to examine my motives is James 4:3: “When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” I realized I should always pray that the Lord’s will be done when I pray about something or someone, but this verse took it a step further, emphasizing my motives, once again.
Sometimes we need to ask ourselves corporately, as a church body, about our motives. Last year I was reading in Zechariah 7:5-6, where the Lord tells the prophet this: “Ask all the people of the land and the priests, ‘When you fasted and mourned in the fifth and seventh months for the past seventy years [while you were in captivity in Babylon], was it really for me that you fasted? And when you were eating and drinking, were you not just feasting for yourselves?'” This speaks to our church traditions as well as other religious ones, even fasting: is our focus on the Lord? Do we even understand why we have certain traditions?
Finally, I need to speak to my own tendency to “judge.” I have written about this elsewhere: https://keithpetersenblog.com/2020/08/11/who-are-you-to-judge/ One of the conclusions that I came to was in the form of a question: when I criticize another believer, whether openly or inwardly, am I condemning, or do I genuinely want the person to renounce their sin and live according to the faith that they profess? This again addresses the question of motive.
I suppose someone might ask, “If I can’t do something for the right motive, should I still do it?” I’ll answer that with a brief vignette: When my kids were young, my wife asked me one Saturday if I wanted to go out with her and them, as well as another mom and her kids. My initial response was “No” because I thought how good it would be just to relax at home; my wife didn’t pressure me at all, either. However, as I thought about it, I realized it was something I ought to do regardless of whether I felt like it or not. On the outing, which was out in nature, I realized after a couple of hours that I was actually enjoying it, and I felt the Lord’s smile. That was enough to motivate me in the future: not that it was wrong to stay home sometimes in similar situations, but that it was good and right–and fun!–for me to do things with my family more often than not–especially out in the Lord’s creation!
I trust it’s clear that this post is at least as much about myself as it is about anyone else out there. I have to regularly evaluate why I do what I do. If you’re a believer, I hope you will do the same. If you’re not a believer, I pray that you will be motivated to investigate Christianity in a deeper way.
