Volunteerism in My Community, Then and Now

Volunteering in various ways has always been important to my wife and me, so when we moved our young family to our current location back in the mid-1990s, we immediately started looking for ways to volunteer. We hosted a Vacation Bible School in our backyard a few weeks after we moved, and the following year, our son started kindergarten, so we took turns volunteering in his classroom. That same year, we were excited to hear that our city had a coalition of ~70 pastors who had begun meeting together regularly to pray for their congregations, each other, and our city. This was clearly the Lord’s timing because the following winter, the southern part of our city was inundated by a flood; a large number of the volunteers who went to help, including me and my young son, were from those churches. The fact that the informal coalition already existed made organizing the volunteers a very quick process. The following year, the coalition organized another work day with various projects around the city. The day began with a gathering of the volunteers, and we sang a Christian contemporary song and/or hymn a before heading out to the various projects; if memory serves, we sang “Amazing Grace,” and we did it a cappella. There was also a short prayer.

Another aspect of the church coalition was that the pastors agreed, among other things, that they would officiate and host weddings only for couples who had gone through pre-marital counseling. My own church, in fact, had a strong pre-marital program, and a few years later, my wife and I found another way to volunteer: we met (two-on-two) over the years with engaged couples and took them through a curriculum put together by one of our pastors. Our leadership also encouraged us to “prayer-walk” in our neighborhoods. This was really a time of blessing for our city! However, the devil was at work; the pastor who was the leader of the church coalition became involved in sexual immorality. He stepped down from his position as pastor; in addition, the church coalition fell apart because none of the other pastors stepped up to take leadership of it.

Fast-forward a few years, and a new organization of volunteers emerged; in fact, it originated in the church where the sexually-immoral pastor had stepped down. My son and I (and then also my wife and daughter) continued to volunteer at the annual work days. We began to notice some changes; for example, instead of singing “Amazing Grace” a cappella in our gathering at the beginning of the day, we heard the chorus of Journey’s iconic “Don’t Stop Believin'” pounding over loudspeakers. The next words of the chorus are “Hold on to that feelin’, streetlight people.” There are differing interpretations of its meaning, but if you listen to the whole song, let’s just say that “streetlight people” doesn’t exactly refer to people of wholesome character. On the positive side, another difference I have noticed is that this movement has spread to nine additional cities, and the number of volunteers has grown astronomically. So has the number of sponsors, which has grown from zero to more than one hundred; a few of them are churches, while the vast majority of them are local businesses.

On this year’s flyer, I have noticed some free giveaways (by drawing), including four tickets to one concert and two to another; a large-screen TV; two tickets to the Broadway national tour of Anastasia; and just added this week, four tickets to Six Flags! Oh, and if you pay $10 for a full pancake breakfast, your name will be entered into a drawing for a Yogurt Mill Gift Basket worth $150! (I should add that there are also free refreshments and snacks for everyone, which is as it should be.)

The sponsorships and giveaways prompted me to read the home page of the organization’s website; no mention is made of Jesus Christ or even of God. I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with this in and of itself; certainly, both believers and unbelievers can volunteer together! My main question for God’s people is this: if you’re volunteering for an event like this, that’s great, but would you be doing it even if there were no free stuff? Here’s what Proverbs 16:21 says: “All a man’s ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the Lord.” A companion verse is Proverbs 21:2, which says, “All a man’s ways seem right to him, but the Lord weighs the heart.”

A lot has been gained in my community in terms of volunteerism since the 1990s; this is particularly true when you look at the huge increase in the number of volunteers on our annual work days. At the same time, I think that something has been lost as well. My wife and I have gotten to that age and stage of life where physical labor is more difficult than it used to be; may the Lord continue to guide our youth and their parents in their volunteering in our community–and indeed every community–as we move forward.

“Forgive Them” and “Remember Me”

With Good Friday just a couple of days away, I’ve been thinking a lot about what Jesus said while He was on the cross. You may know that there were seven things recorded in Scripture that He said; in this post, I am focusing on the first two.

First of all, let’s look at the timing of Jesus’ crucifixion. In Mark 15:25, we read, “It was the third hour when they crucified Him.” That means it was 9:00 A.M. when Jesus was nailed to the cross. (“Zero hour” was 6:00, the beginning of the Jewish day.) Later in the same chapter, verse 33, Mark writes, “At the sixth hour darkness came over the whole land until the ninth hour.” If you read verses 34-37, you can see why most scholars believe Jesus died shortly after the ninth hour began at 3:00, which means He was on the cross for about six hours.

Now let’s go back to very near the beginning of Jesus’ crucifixion. In Luke 23:34, we read: “Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.’ Imagine: Jesus has just been nailed to the cross, and He asks His heavenly Father to forgive them! One question is: who is “them?” While I realize that there are those who believe that Jesus was forgiving all people for all time, I agree with those who say He was forgiving all those who confess their sins and believe in Him, for all time. 1 John 1:9 tells us, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” Psalm 32:5 says, “Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the Lord’–and you forgave the guilt of my sin.” In other words, God’s forgiveness is conditional; people need to confess their sin and ask for His forgiveness. God does not forgive unrepentant sinners.

What about the second part of what Jesus said? “For they do not know what they are doing” means first of all, that those who directly participated in Jesus’ crucifixion didn’t understand or believe that they were crucifying the Messiah. 1 Corinthians 2:8 is very clear about this: “None of the rulers of this age understood it, for if they had, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory.” There is also a very real sense in which no unrepentant sinner understands this; it isn’t until we come to Jesus in saving faith that we understand that our sin put Him on the cross.

Several years ago, I noticed something very striking in Matthew 27:44: “In the same way the robbers who were crucified with him also heaped insults on him.” Notice the word “robbers,” not “robber!” In other words, early during Jesus’ crucifixion, both criminals who were crucified with Jesus mocked Him. However, sometime during the next two-three hours, one of them had a change of heart. Luke 23:39-43 tells us, “One of the criminals who hung there hurled insults at him: ‘Aren’t you the Christ? Save yourself and us!’ But the other criminal rebuked him. ‘Don’t you fear God,’ he said, ‘since you are under the same sentence?  We are punished justly, for we are getting what our deeds deserve. But this man has done nothing wrong.’ Then he said, ‘Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.’ Jesus answered him, ‘I tell you the truth, today you will be with me in paradise.’

This criminal now understands that he is being punished justly, but that Jesus is the Perfect One, the Messiah; he even understands something of Jesus’ kingdom! He has acknowledged his sin and received Jesus’ forgiveness. I have often wondered if there are other things Jesus said on the cross which are not recorded for us in Scripture; regardless, this man had earlier heard Jesus ask His heavenly Father to forgive “them,” and here Jesus tells this man that he will join Him in paradise–on that very day!

If you read a few verses further in Luke, you will see that the Roman centurion also believed. Mark records it this way, in Chapter 15:39: “And when the centurion, who stood there in front of Jesus, heard his cry and saw how he died, he said, ‘Surely this man was the Son of God!'” I believe we will see this Roman centurion in heaven as well.

This week, for the first time, I see the direct connection between the first two things Jesus said from the cross. First, He asks His heavenly Father to forgive all those who believe, and then He forgives a criminal who acknowledges his sin and implicitly asks for forgiveness. If you have not yet confessed your sin and asked Jesus for forgiveness, I pray that this will be the day you do it; He will forgive you, and you will experience a peace and joy like you never have before.

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Two years ago, I wrote a post about evidence for Jesus’ resurrection; you can read it here: https://keithpetersenblog.com/2021/03/24/evidence-for-the-resurrection/ Last year, I wrote a post about the Jewish mob who asked Pilate to release Barabbas, a criminal, rather than Jesus; you can read it here: https://keithpetersenblog.com/2022/04/07/give-us-barabbas/ These are two of my most-viewed posts.

“My Truth” and The Truth

Over the last few years, the phrase “my truth” has become very commonplace, especially among celebrities of one kind or another. Every time I hear or read it, I have a rather visceral reaction, which had caused me to question why that is.

In January of 2018, at the Golden Globes Awards ceremony, Oprah said, “Speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have.” That seems to be the moment when the phrase “my truth” went viral. Here are some other examples:

  • “Remember, all the answers you need are inside of you; you only have to become quiet enough to hear them.” (Debbie Ford, author (deceased)) I include this quote (written in 1998) because the idea of the answers being “inside you” seems to me to be somewhat of a precursor to “my truth.”
  • “As a comedian, I am obligated to tell you the truth, my truth. To share with you my beliefs, my perspective.” (Dane Cook, comedian) Cook says very explicitly that his truth means his perspective, or beliefs.
  • “Adults who loved and knew me, on many occasions sat me down and told me that I was black. As you could imagine, this had a profound impact on me and soon became my truth.” (Shaun King, author) King’s truth is found in his racial identity.
  • “My truth is I am gay and out, and if I can’t do that in my music, then I don’t need it.” (Billy Porter, singer) Porter’s truth is found in his sexual identity.
  • “This is your life; live it by your truth.” (Mikaela’s husband talking to her on TV series Manifest, final season) Truth here is in reference to Mikaela’s lived experience and perspective.
  • “Briana didn’t tell Trevor her truth because she thought that she would lose him if she did.”  (Kemi to C. Hemingway (pathologist) on TV series Alert) Here “her truth” means “her story.”
  • “I wouldn’t be surprised, Rusty, if you haven’t lied yet.  At least as you understand the truth.” (Tommy Molto to Rusty Sabich in Scott Turow’s Innocent) The phrase “my truth” is not explicitly used, but “the truth” refers to one man’s perspective about what he believes to have happened.
  • Liberation from meaning leaves us skeptical of truth itself, comfortable only to acknowledge ‘your truth’ and ‘my truth,’ confident only in the reality of subjective feeling rather than objective fact.” (Michael J. Knowles, media host) This quote reveals a man of wisdom; Knowles understands the phrase “my truth” to be so often rooted in a person’s subjective feeling rather than objective fact.
  • “I’ve always been someone who’s believed in truth. I believe truth exists. I don’t believe in relativism, a ‘your truth, my truth’ kind of a thing. However, I also believe that the truth must always be spoken in love – and that grace and truth are found in Jesus Christ.” (Jonathan Jackson, actor) Jackson also shows wisdom in his understanding of “my truth” as being rooted in relativism. He also speaks of the truth and where it is found.

In summarizing these quotes, “my truth” most often means a person’s opinions/feelings or lived experience/”story.” In one case, it refers specifically to a man’s racial identity, and in another, his sexual identity. Thankfully, we have words of wisdom from Michael J. Knowles, Jonathan Jackson, and many others. However, the concept of absolute truth has largely gone by the wayside in our pluralistic, postmodern society, and in its place we have extreme relativism, where so many define “truth” according to themselves. Furthermore, as others have noted, “my truth” is non-negotiable, which means you are not allowed to question it. This explains the visceral reaction which I noted at the outset of this post.

With Good Friday/Easter weekend just two weeks away, I thought of Jesus’ exchange with Pilate, the Roman governor, on Good Friday morning in John 18:37-38: “You are a king, then?” said Pilate. Jesus answered, “You are right in saying I am a king. In fact, for this reason I was born, and for this I came into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone on the side of truth listens to me.” “What is truth?” Pilate asked. With this he went out again to the Jews and said, “I find no basis for a charge against him.” However, Pilate gave in to pressure from the crowd and had Jesus crucified. Much has been written about Pilate’s question: “What is truth?” Some have been rather sympathetic to Pilate, but I think it’s clear that Pilate was a scoffer when it came to the truth, and he was motivated by fear.

A few chapters earlier, in John 14:6, Jesus tells us very clearly what, and especially Who, the Truth is: “Jesus answered, ‘I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'” Yes, Jesus Himself is the absolute Truth, and the Bible reveals Him in His earthly humility as well as His heavenly glory. For anyone reading this who is not a follower of Jesus Christ, my prayer is that this is the time you will put your faith in Him.

Why I Give Money, but Never Lend It

You have probably had friends or family members ask if you can lend them money. When that happens, how do you respond? This post is about how and why I have chosen to do so. It should also be clear from the title that this post is not about giving to charitable organizations, but to individuals. I will illustrate my rationale with four stories.

1. Many years ago, when my family and I were part of a large church, one of my friends there asked me if he could borrow $50 to buy his wife something “nice” for Valentine’s Day. I said that I would give him the money and that he wouldn’t have to pay me back. He didn’t like that response, so we went back and forth, with him saying he would pay me back and me saying that I wouldn’t accept repayment. Finally, because of his insistence, I gave in; he thanked me and said that he would pay me back the following week. Two weeks later, I saw him, and he said that he wasn’t able to repay me just yet, but that he would do it “soon.” A few weeks later, the same thing happened; even though I didn’t bring up the matter of the $50, he did. However, he was clearly uncomfortable talking with me. After some time, he and his family left our church, but I eventually ran into him at a store. We greeted each other and exchanged polite conversation, but no mention was made of the $50.

2. A few years after that, another friend shared in our men’s group at church that over a period of time, he had lent someone more than $3000. My friend was visibly upset as he shared that his friend had promised to pay him back, but so far, he had received nothing. He wanted counsel, so after asking him some questions, the rest of us advised him to talk with the borrower and work out a specific repayment plan. Thankfully, he did just that, and a few weeks later, he shared with us that his friend had begun to repay him.

3. One day around that same time when I got home from work, my wife told me that the husband of her good friend had called and in desperation asked if we could lend him $1000 because their utilities were about to be shut off. My wife said we couldn’t do that because we were rather financially tight that summer, which was true. What my wife didn’t add in her conversation with him was that we wouldn’t have either given or lent him anything anyway because he was irresponsible with money; it was always feast or famine with him. We found out a short time later that he had found another way to avoid having his family’s utilities shut off.

4. A few years after that, yet another friend talked to me and my wife about his brother, whose wife needed professional psychiatric care at a facility. He asked us if we would be willing to help with the cost of that. After clarifying some things, we said that we would be willing to help, but we made it clear that we would be giving the money, not lending it. The only thing we asked was that he keep us updated on his sister-in-law’s condition and situation; he very gratefully accepted our help.

The first two stories illustrate that when you lend money to an individual, it can put a severe strain on the relationship if that borrower doesn’t repay you. The third story simply illustrates that my wife and I don’t give to someone that we know is irresponsible with money. I should add that my wife didn’t even have to ask me about it because she already knew what my response would be, and she was in agreement with it. The fourth story illustrates the blessing that we received when we gave, with no strings attached. I suppose some might say that asking our friend to keep us updated on his sister-in-law’s condition and situation was a “string,” but I disagree, especially since we gave more later.

Somewhat related to this matter of giving vs. lending is cosigning a loan, which means that if the original borrower is unable to pay it back, then you as the cosigner become responsible for repayment. In cosigning, then, you take two risks: One is that if you also become unable to pay back the loan, you’ll be in financial trouble; the other is that your relationship with the original borrower will be negatively affected. My wife and I decided that we would never cosign for anyone, even an immediate family member; what we have done, however, is to give money to help with school expenses or a down payment.

I should add that the Bible does not forbid lending money, either in the Old Testament or the New Testament. However, here is a proverb that has influenced me in my thinking: “The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.” (Proverbs 22:7) I certainly don’t want to be anyone’s “servant,” meaning to be indebted to anyone. However, I don’t want anyone else to be my “servant,” either.

To be clear, if you lend to an individual friend or family member, I’m not saying that you are doing anything wrong. Neither am I saying that my way is the only way or even the best way. I’m simply saying that lending has the potential to put a strain on the relationship. In my experience, giving has not put a strain on my relationships.

Spiritual Highs and the Ordinary Life

By now, you’ve probably heard about what happened at Asbury University for nearly two weeks; secular as well as Christian news outlets have been talking and writing about it. Some have called it a revival, while some prefer the term “outpouring;” others are skeptical, at best. This movement, regardless of what you want to call it, has spread to at least six other universities as well.

My purpose in this post is not to decide which term best fits what has happened at Asbury University; it is, to start with, to examine what people who were actually a part of it have been saying about it. The event began on February 8, when ~20 students and the worship team decided to stay past the end of the regular chapel service. One student began to confess his sins, which I was very encouraged to read about. Here’s what Alexandra Presta, a senior, wrote on that first night: “To confess, reconcile, heal and allow prayers to be spoken over us — He knew what we needed to do and helped us do it.” More on confession later. There was lots of singing and praying (including some in tongues) throughout the 13 days; there was an instance (caught on video) of what may or may not have been a demon being cast out of someone; and there was some preaching. Many students have talked about the spiritual and accompanying emotional high of being a part of it.

At least one student says that there was consistent preaching of the Gospel, but other students have contradicted that claim. Samuel Sey, an op-ed contributor for the Christian Post, says that he has watched hundreds of video clips of the event and has yet to see a clear presentation of the Gospel; he admits that doesn’t mean people weren’t preaching the Gospel there. However, what one unnamed student said is troubling: “Unfortunately, I have first-account experience and conversations with people who are attending and speaking on the ‘greatness’ of revival who are actively living in sin (to be blunt).” This gets at the heart of the issue: true revival results in, among other things, confession of sin and repentance from it, meaning that people will then live in increasing obedience to Scripture, which they will also have a greater hunger for. One would not expect everyone who was part of the Asbury event to repent, but certainly one would expect even more stories as time goes on of attendees repenting from sin. While I certainly can and do understand the strong emotional component of such an event, emotion in and of itself means next to nothing if it’s not accompanied by life change. For some, that could be very noticeable change, especially if they have just come to faith in Christ, while for others who were already Christians, the changes might be less noticeable, but no less significant.

Over Christmas, my wife received a book called A Theology of the Ordinary from a long-time friend. Julie Canlis, the author, writes about “a theology that values slow growth over dramatic change and the ‘ordinary’ as essential to our spiritual maturity.” Canlis quotes Michael Horton, who writes in his book Ordinary, “My concern is that the activist impulse at the heart of evangelicalism can put an enormous burden on people to do big things when what we need most right now is to do the ordinary things better.” Canlis goes on to write, “These modern conferences and movements give people an expectation that growth happens only when we are away from our local church, away from the people whom God has placed in our lives.” And here’s another quote from Samuel Sey, the writer for the Christian Post: “It’s concerning, however, that so many of us are seemingly bored by ordinary worship at a local church that produces an extraordinary change in one’s soul.”

In 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12, the apostle Paul writes, “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.” Have you heard that at any conferences recently? Back in the late 1990s, most of what the Promise Keepers men’s movement encouraged men to do was very much in line with these two verses. However, many contemporary Christian conferences (especially ones geared toward youth) use fog machines, lights, and other special effects to supposedly heighten the attendees’ experience in large-group settings. In fact, at a church that my family and I used to be a part of, after a good-sized youthful contingent had attended such a conference, the church leadership decided to incorporate “fog” into the services. Essentially, the church was trying to duplicate the experience of those who had attended the conference. However, I am reminded here of John 3:8, where Jesus tells Nicodemus, “The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.” Thankfully, the use of fog did not last more than a few months.

When my son was 13 and my daughter 10, my wife and I took them to a Third World country for seven weeks during the summer. I had a short-term teaching contract, while my family was along “for the ride.” Our first Sunday there, we attended a small, informal gathering/service of American believers in a place that I suppose many Americans would consider dingy; it was not a church building, either. Our son told us later that he had really experienced the presence of the Lord then and there. My daughter had cried before we left the U.S. because she was going to miss the first month of the school year (she was in a year-round school), but as we were preparing to return to the U.S., she asked if we could stay there (in the Third World country) forever. Both of them practically begged us to go back there, so three summers later, we did it again. The Lord does not need services in “church buildings,” and certainly not fog machines, to do His work in human hearts. “For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.” (Matthew 18:20)

Here’s a question we all need to ask ourselves: When we attend Christian conferences or similar events, what happens when we return home? Do we come away from them refreshed, even more ready to live in loving obedience to the Lord through serving others in “ordinary” daily life, or do we focus more on the admittedly wonderful experience, already looking ahead to the next one? For the Asbury students (and others) who were part of the 13-day event, will their lives change? Will some stop “living in sin?” Will others rededicate themselves to living for the Lord in more “ordinary” ways? If so, then the Lord will have done His work in the hearts of at least some of the attendees–some would say because of the event, while others would say in spite of it.